If you have children, you know these 2 words. Mom. Guilt. Do you struggle with this?
I know I do, and from what I can tell, many other mamas do as well! I’m going to share some real talk about the questions I ask myself more often than I’d like to admit and offer some potential ways to let.it.go.
Mom Guilt – it starts before the children are even in our wombs…when we are trying to conceive and it doesn’t happen on our timeline, or we experience loss through miscarriage or struggle with infertility, or have a child that isn’t “perfect” by society’s standards. We often compare ourselves to others and put unrealistic expectations on ourselves and feel guilty for things beyond our control.
Some questions we ask ourselves because of Mom Guilt:
Does my child read enough?
Am I showing my child how to be kind enough?
Should I stay home or work?
Has my child had too much time on electronics?
Am I feeding my child healthy foods?
What if… (they fall off that swing? Injure themselves on the trampoline?)
Am I socializing my child enough?
Are they in enough extracurricular activities? Too many?
Am I showing my child how to be responsible?
Am I showing what God’s love looks like? Forgiveness?
Should I have breastfed longer? Should I have switched to formula sooner?
Are they acting appropriately?
Are they building confidence?
I find that using positive affirmations and reading positive quotes can help to overcome Mom Guilt. A couple of my favorites are “Trying to be Super Mom is as futile as trying to be Perfect Mom. Not going to happen,” from Arianna Huffington and “Do what you can, with what you have where you are,” from Theodore Roosevelt