Here’s a recipe for anxiety: being “Type A,” and going through the chaos of not one but TWO cross countries moves in a year! We’re settled now in our new house and as our lives start to head back towards normalcy and routine, it got me thinking about how I ever survived the chaos of the last year.
I am a planner by nature and crave systems and order in my life. Ironically, in the last 6 months there has been very little order in my life. Moving across the country with a husband, two kids and a dog is a challenge for anyone, but doing it twice is downright crazy! Our belongings have been in storage and continue to be delayed despite follow up and sending wishes and prayers out to the universe. Now that we are getting settled I really wonder just how I did it without going totally crazy.
What can a self-proclaimed control freak do in the midst of chaos to stay focused on what really matters? Here are some of my favorite tricks for keeping my eye on the prize when life starts to get a little too chaotic:
- Focus on the positive. My life is blessed. We have our health, we have joy, we have each other. If I consciously focus on these facts for a few minutes, it helps to put everything going on around me into perspective.
- Recognize that belongings are just things. Minimalism shows us that the “stuff” is just stuff. There are deeper relationships that can be created without the distractions of toys, televisions, and a matching set of coffee mugs. Taking the time to remind myself that the belongings that are in storage aren’t keeping my family and I from living an amazing life.
- Cry. Yep. I said it and I have done it. I don’t enjoy crying. I end up feeling worse than when the tears began to flow. My eyes puff out, my nose gets red, and I get a headache. However, letting the faucet flow can be just what we need to release the stress and tension we are carrying around.
- Workout. Pilates, jogging, walking, or weights, whatever will get you a nice mood boost. These are all therapeutic for me and they release serotonin which makes you feel calmer and more relaxed.
- Work. Hustling in business and coaching/mentoring others gives me a great sense of accomplishment and success. This is something that makes me feel in control…which I enjoy and crave. When my personal life is chaotic, I tend to lean into my work to regain an overall feeling of order and control.
- Positive self-talk. I am a strong person. I can give myself permission to be imperfect and recognize that I desire order but can grow as a person when I can lift my head up and see life without the clutter of things! Repeating positive affirmations and self-talk helps to put me into a good mindset and not linger on things that are out of my control.
Are you a Type A personality? What do you find that you focus on when you need to shift perspective towards positivity? How do you create order among chaos?